The Price of Solitude

After passing away of model and actress Humaira Ali, many questions arise. Many questioned her staying alone. Many questioned her profession. Many questioned her choices. Many did not like her lifestyle. At this age of life, we cannot question and judge why someone chose a certain career or loneliness. Some people like to keep their life private and stay an introvert.No one can know how much trauma someone is going through. Why someone left family? Why someone went into isolation? It is very hard to answer these whys. At times people ask me to marry and leave solitude but let me remind you that husband and marriage isn't for everyone. After thirties and forties, it is almost impossible to find a single available dude, as most of the mald friends in your circle are already married with kids. In your twenties, things never worked in arranged setups beacuse of heavy demands from boy and his family. My question is: Does having a relationship or marriage solve this problem? At least you have someone around you when you die. In my humble opinion, marriage is also not a solution. For an aged widow or divorced woman without kids and parents. Humera ali is not the first case. Remember beautiful Parveen Babi who died alone in her house. Nalni Jaywant and Geeta Kapoor died lonely deaths. Silk smitha was found dead in her flat. The importance of household and family arises here. Staying alone and away from family is dangerous. I belong to media too but I chose to stay with my family. Our career and our profession is our choice but staying alone isnt recommended. In case if you are unable to marry or the biological clock has ticked for your marriage and starting a family, you need to create a good social circle or adopt a child. Actress Ayesha khan, despite having kids died a lonely death. So what is the solution then? Geeta Kapoor had two kids and died alone. I see many parents dying alone these days as their children are in other cities or countries. I can not suggest or find any solution to this problem. Most of us choose an introvert and solitary path because people make our lives hell. Social circles are also toxic as you are a questionable object there. I left many circles as I was only asked about staying single. That was becoming heavy on my nerves. You can not tell people again and again that the boy's mother did not like your curly hair. You can not tell people that the boy's mother did not like your tall physique. I chose solitude because peace was important for me. The story continues....No answer to this question...

Choice is yours

Life is always a choice for a woman. Relationship is also a choice for a woman. 1) If you choose to marry at a young age, you must know that you will make many silly mistakes for which you will not be forgiven. 2) If you choose to marry in an arranged setup, you must know that the guy will be unknown to you and many aspects of his personality will be shocking for you. 3) If you choose to marry an unemployed dude, you must realize that he will feed on your income and will need lots of financial support. 4) If you choose to marry a very well established and successful dude, you must realize that you will always be treated low. Your self esteem will be shattered after some time. 5) If you choose to marry a very handsome and prince charming kind man, you should be ready to cope with his affairs and girl friends too. 6) If you choose to marry a very religious man, your services will be cloaked in religion as you will miss many aspects of grounded life. 7) If you choose to marry a rich dude and be his trophy wife, you are living life as a puppet only. You are dressing, eating and living according to his requirements. 8) If you marry an average looking dude, you will always be blamed for for your beauty and its misusage. He will only accuse you for having imaginary affairs with men, because he is complexed about his looks. 9) If you marry a dude much younger than you, always be prepared that he will leave you some day over a younger girl, accusing you for infertility, old age and youthful pleasures. 10) If you marry a widower, you must know that shadows of his deceased wife are still haunting him. He is still attached to her and might keep comparing you to his old wife. Get ready to fight with a shadow. 11) If you choose to marry a very older dude, you must realize that he might pass away and will come with nothing. His emotions, passions and fires are all gone. After his demise, you will be kicked out by step children. 12) If you choose to have relationship with a married dude, you must realize that his wife and children are his first priority. You are only a 'side chick' for him. He will never give you the space you want in your life. Most of your dreams will be unfulfilled. 13) If you choose to marry your blood cousin, you must be prepared for medically unfit kids. Cousin marriages bring lots of genetic diseases. 14) If you choose to marry after forties, you must know that biological clock to start a family has gone down. No pregnancy is possible at this age. The dude you are marrying must know that babies cant happen at this age. 15) If you choose to marry a widower with kids, you must know that you are only an educated servant to his kids. 16) Lastly, if you choose to stay alone and single, get ready for something very serious. Get ready for people questioning you and your sexuality. You don't have any engagement ring, you don't have any wedding bells. You don't have have any wedding dress to wear. You don't have any wedding album to share. You don't have any husband stories to share with anyone. You don't have any honeymoon memories. You are missing motherhood and kids. If you have a social circle where your friends are married, you might feel depressed. On a darker note, some male friends will try to flirt with you as an option, since you are available. 17) If you choose to marry via a marriage center, they will never contact you after taking money. It is a very old tactic. 18) If you form a relationship with a player, you must know that things will never manifest into real marriage. So choice is yours now...