A Love Triangle

In media, we have seen many stories of love trianges where men were married with kids and still had another relationship.I am not writing this post with a religious mindset. I wish to highlight the social side of such relationships. In a country like ours, the marriage clock stops ticking after 25. Girls enter into relationship or marriage with married men. Usually women in their late thirties or forties go for such relationships. Men around them are usually married. Choosing a totally single life is ok. I see many women around me who opt for such relationships because of many reasons. 1) Women in late thirties are not chosen as wife by men around them. A man in late thirties chooses a wife ten years younger than him. Our culture is like this. 2) Women in late thirties, who are single moms or widows are not chosen by single men of this age. Men in late thirties want to invest in women around mid twenties. 3) Women have lot of pressure from families. From where to find a bachelor for you daughter? Women who are living with brothers and bhabis face that. Bhabis usually are not ready to keep a single nand. Even if she is independent, buying a separate house isnt possible. 4) Women who are out of child bearing age are not chosen by men. They are ok as second spouse. 5) Rishta auntys and marriage bureaus will only refer married men to you. Widowers and divorced men have very high demands. Even a widower of 60 looks for a young girl of 19. Divorced men have very high demands too. 6) Many women around me are married off to married men unhappily. They always dreamed of a single partner as girls. A woman around me is single and 44. She is not ok with proposals of married men and has chosen a very solitary life. She lives alone. She has no parents and no family. 7) Another girl around me is 22. Her fiance died when she was 19. She was married off to an aged man but he divorced her. After two mishaps, she was married off to a father of four kids. It was not her wish. 8) An aunt of mine married twice and became a widow twice. Her financial condition was very poor. At 58, a man offered her second marriage and she said yes. 9) A friend of mine is divorced with a kid. No man is ready to accept her as she has crossed mid thirties now. Her mother tried to find a widower for her but their demands were damn high. She keeps telling her parents that she is ok alone with her kid. Her mother is ok with proposal of a married man. 10) As per in my case, from a very young age i started attracting proposals from married men. My parents were looking for a single dude. Time passed and things did not change. Even today, I keep rejecting proposals from married men. I never dreamt of such a useless relationship in my teens. I never dreamt of a married partner in my teens. This side of relationship was unexplored for me. I ll cover in another post how things worked for me. I never wanted to be a second option of some married dude. What I mean to say is that no woman opts for such relationships happily. It is pressure from society or circumstances that lead to this path. No triangle is a happy one. Most of the times it is forced. If you have good financial condition and stability, choose a lonely path. A triangle is never a happy one for both the women in it.