Why I Attract more Proposals after Forty?

This looks strange. I attract more proposals in this age than I used to get in my twenties: I know my worth Aligned with myself Traditional matrix programming diminished Self assured and know my worth Social barriers no longer make a difference Tapped into the real side of life Old lessons taught by society went away Settling for less is not needed Not entertaining knights and pages King is always there Released what no longer serves me Self sufficiency and becoming my own healer, savior and provider No longer settling as a "second option" Tapping into a soul mission (divinity, tarot, mysticism, arts, sciences) Make and follow my own rules. (Old rules do not serve me any more) Cocreating with spirit Chop wood Not settling for someone who treats me like a door mat

Keeping a Middle Ground

I see many debates on social media around choosing between arranged or love marriage. Keeping it practical and grounded, I would recommend a middle ground. Going for a typical arranged marriage is very scary these days as nothing is known about the other person. People boast a lot and hide many basic facts. Just quoting an example, my first marriage was a highly arranged one where I did not know anything about the guy. My mother had a traditional mindset and believed that first proposal of a girl was the biggest blessing. It should never be rejected. This mindset ruined my life. In those days, investigation was not possible as social media platforms were not there. (2002 era). It was almost impossible to investigate about a boy and his family. Only basic things like appearance, height, education could be known. He told his age as 29 which turned out to be 39. He told about having a family of three children, turned out to be a family of seven siblings. The worst was being a golddigger and demanding a house. Due to lack of interest in me and support from his overly greedy parents, things ended badly. In order to avoid such issues, I suggest meeting a few times ethically is enough. Social media is there these days. You can discuss and get to know what he or she thinks. You do not need to go to a foreign country etc. You can keep your dignity and still investigate things. A typical arranged marriage is a blind dungeon these days. If you think that he or she is not aligned with you, you can refuse and leave. This does not give trauma that you face after a breakup in arranged marriages. I met some people after that and instantly knew within a few days that they were only killing time. Some were players, some were overly religious. Some of them only wanted a relationship without nikah. Some were full of lust and greed. Following a middle ground is always the best approach. It saves you from unwanted trauma and pain.

My Demands In a Relationship

Miracles keep happening everyday. Trust should always be there. At times, many people ask me what kind of partner I always wanted. Were my demands too high? In fact I had the least demands. But a person with such traits was never there. Well, I became the person I always wanted. She never found a hero so she became the one. I kept developing all the traits I wanted in a partner. 1) Availability: (This was the most required trait as I never got someone who was available for me. Marriage centers were full of dudes looking for second wife, in presence of first. Marriage auntys only referred married men to me. That was not my demand. 2) More masculinity: I am not fond of men who exhibit feminine energies too much. I am not fond of men with short heights. Myself being 5.7 in height, I could not marry a man with height of 5.2. 3) Not a gold digger: I am not a gold digger neither I demanded a person with a greedy mindset. 4) Good background: This matters a lot for me. 5) Hygiene: I care a lot about physical, emotional and spiritual hygiene. I am not fond of someone with long nails and untidy getup. Taking showers everyday and staying clean is very important for me. 6) Shared goals and similar mindset: I got some proposals from dudes who wanted me to be overly religious, leave work and wear abaya. I am moderate. 7) Looks: Looks are always important for me. I always preferred an age difference of 3 to four years. I am not fond of very old or very young partner. My first (and only) relationship did not work as the man was eighteen years older than me. 8) Serious minded: Player boys and short time flirts have never been my wish. Mostly men outside are only into short term flirting. People at matrimonial websites are only killing time without involving families. (I have no interest in exes of a partner, past relationships, bank balance, smoking, not having a house of his own kind things.)

Paranormal in my life part 3

We used to live at our village back in 80s. My cousin and I studied at the same school. I had celebrated my 8th birthday and my cousin was 6. We used to cross a beautiful river while going to school. Mother nature was always beautiful. I used to catch fish too. There was no bridge on that river and things were peaceful and beautiful everyday. We used to step on river stones in order to cross the river. Life was beautiful. Mother nature was smiling. One day I woke up and left for school. When I was about to cross the river, I saw an old man chopping wood. He was dressed in plain village kind clothes. He had white beard and his eye brows were white too. "Child, skip the school today. This river will be heavily flooded tonight and you won't be able to come back. Avoid coming to this area for a week." His warning was strange as it had never happened before in two years. Floods and river? I looked at the sky. It was all blue. The sun was shining brightly. I stepped back and came back home with my cousin. I told mom about the warning old man gave me. That night, river was flooded heavily and I could even hear flowing waters. Our house was built on a hill. I could see the river and school from my window. Transportation and communication was blocked for a week. Villagers used to use the word " darya charh gaya hey". Things came to normal after a week. I wanted to know about that old man. I never saw that man before that. He was a stranger. One of my friends at school told me that an old man used to live near that river but he had passed away some years ago. He was a carpenter. I tried to explain to people how he looked. I never saw him after that day. Mine was a small village and mostly people were known to me. God always sends someone to save you.