Indirect way of demanding a dowry

Indirect way of demanding dowry:
Aap apni khushi se jo dena chahen de den..
Now its self deception. This "khushi se" means..
Car, house, jewelry, cash, heavy investment on marriage food and rituals, late night wedding functions, heavy gifts for almost every relative of boy, plus monthly income of girl is she's earning. House appliances like wood furniture, bed, crockery, blankets, utensils, tv, cd player, music system, computer, lap tops, etc etc come under this "khushi se". We have to stop this concept of self deception. Parents of a girl get scared and blackmailed as the marriage day comes near. They start borrowing money, take a heavy interest loan so that their daughter doesn't get taunted by in laws. We have to break this social stereotype. Mean people would always taunt your daughter even if you give a Taj Mahal in dowry.

Why I am against dowry?

Dowry is a social cancer that not only destroys life of a girl but ruins a happy and normal life of her parents too. Its a cancer that leads to adultery and unstable matrimonial relationships. A relationship solely based on dowry can never be a happy one.
Dowry is only a complication added to the process of simple arranged commitments. It complicates the process so much that girls get sick of it and decide at their own to go for a Love marriage. The rewards of love marriage are honor killings and non acceptance and taunts by in laws and girls' parents. A simple process is made more complicated with dowry.